Can this be real, or is it just Lust and not "Love"

Marrisa3636 · Rookie Age: 18 Joined: 02 Sep 2008 Posts: 4

:....I graduated this past May..but At the beginning of the year, everything was normal between me and one of my teachers, but as the year went on, I realized that he started doing strange things, like telling other kids(as a joke), that they should not talk to me, even make eye contact with me..or one time he said in class one day, that he loved me and that I will always have a special place in his heart. He would make these little remarks like, once I saw him in the hallway and it was crowded and he came out of one of the classes and told these kids, hey you guys need get to class and clear the hallways, because there is a beautiful girl in the hallway. He saw me before graduation, he told me I looked beautiful, and said that this year has been a year he won't forget, because he feels that he has become a better person, teacher, everything because I opened his eyes to giving people an opportunity to succeed.The year was full of moments like that. Now, I am starting to question how I feel about him, It's like he slowly seduced me all year? I just don't know if these 'feelings' between us are real?

I am gonna be 19 and he is gonna be 25. I have talked to some friends and some family.. and most just tell me I just took what he said wrong, and I should forget it..but everytime I get convinced, yeah..it probobly didn't mean anything..or he didnt mean what he said like that, something else happens..and it makes me think otherwise.

As for me, in all honesty, I do like him, as we did spend a lot of time together last year, but I just can imagine what other people would say, and Its sort of like, my heart tells me one thing, but the reality of the way people think makes me feel like I have to think otherwise. I don't want either of us to get a bad reputation, and I know that people could think things happened before Graduation. I mean, he told me at the end of the year, that he did like me, and hoped that any guy that dates me, realizes how lucky he really is. I really dont know if these feelings are 'real' or if my mind is just playing tricks on me.

I caught up with my teacher recently.. and it was at school and when he saw me, he told me, 'hey..before you leave, you have to check out my office..you haven't been up there yet.' So, He went to class and I went up to see what he was talking about, and he had this little sign thing ( that I started as a joke with acouple of other teachers as well), and its just this lil paper sign that will say like...WHAT, or Confused, or HuH? and I like hold them up during classes...its really more of an inside joke with the people at my school, but it saved me from having to raise my hand or call out every 5 min. when I was in a class that I never understood anything..lol..and a lot of other people started doing it too..but Its all out of fun...and he had the sign that I had for his class last year framed, and then he had this pic. of us that I gave him at the end of the year, framed too. Like I said, the sign..I could see framed..cause most of the other teachers who I have done this with..framed their's too...haha..but the picture kinda shocked me...I was like...huh? I mean, I gave any teacher that I had taken a photo with at the end of the year, a copy of the pic. and some of them tacked it on the wall, or just have it like leaning on something in their office, or some just took it home, but I was surprised that he framed it...I was like..wow..really was not expecting that. Should I just take that as a compliment, that he doesn't want the pic getting messed up, or take that as something...weird??? Its like the only two things he has up too..like he doesnt have any other things up in his office yet. Part of me says, wow, thats nice of him, and then the other part is like...alittle strange???

What do you guys think?!?

musicislife07 · Member Age: 16 Joined: 24 Aug 2008 Posts: 10

I think you should confront this guy with your feelings. You need to ask him how he feels about you. Don't tell him exactly how you feel about him, that's just opening you up to get hurt. And about the whole 'we might get a bad reputation' thing, don't worry about it! You can keep things on the down low for however long you need to. If you feel like you guys are getting serious, then bring it out in the open. If the relationship is kinda iffy, then stay in secret until you know for sure.
His actions could just be him being friendly. Have you seen him act this way with anyone else? And you never know, he could end up being a stalker or something. Just be careful when you confront him.

Marrisa3636 · Rookie Age: 18 Joined: 02 Sep 2008 Posts: 4

~*~AndreaKay~*~

it seems to me that you feel uncomfortable about the age difference as well as him being your teacher... even though you've graduated... you said that you matured a little that year.. did you learn to trust your gut instincts? i hope you did because in situations like these to me it sounds like he's pretty forward and up front at getting your attention and like the other one said... confront him ask him how he feels... if he has strong feelings for you just watch for the posessive signs because he is an older man... such as the way you dress or wear your hair.. who you talk to or hang out with... you see in the back of his mind (i'm not saying this is for sure)wether he realizes it or not he could be seeing you as a vulnerable little girl that he can mold specifically to his liking... i'm not trying to scare you away from him by saying all this i just want to make sure that you really know what you are doing if you are thinking of taking it to the next level with the relationship... like i said watch for the signs and remember always be yourself... there is an up side too... he really could be attracted to you, some people can sense these vibes and ora's that people put out unknowingly and are instantly attracted and the more and more they get to know the person the stronger the attraction becomes... i hope i've given you atleast a small piece of mind and that everything works out...

XD-bear · Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 10:33 pm Post subject:

honestly, id advise against it

reguardless of his feelings

and for obvious reasons

he sounds like a perverted stalker in my opinion also... just thought i should mention that in a ps kinda way

Marrisa3636 · Rookie Age: 18 Joined: 02 Sep 2008 Posts: 4

alx · Posted: Fri Sep 05, 2008 5:04 pm Post subject:

Notice how bear has managed to perfectly express her views in a few sentences.

Huge paragraph girls, take note.

XD-bear · Posted: Fri Sep 05, 2008 11:22 pm Post subject:

why thank you Alx Very Happy

alx · Posted: Sat Sep 06, 2008 2:52 pm Post subject:

Tamonten · Posted: Sat Sep 06, 2008 7:19 pm Post subject:

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alx · Posted: Sat Sep 06, 2008 7:44 pm Post subject:

We love you too

Marrisa3636 · Rookie Age: 18 Joined: 02 Sep 2008 Posts: 4

Ok..so I was just wondering what you guys thought about this...Am I crazzy or does this guy give me mixed emotions here??

I headed out to the first home game for my High School....And like everyone from the school went to the game....other alumi...everyone...it was a huge game because we were playing a school we have not played in years...so everyone was there..and I saw my teacher at the Football Game this past week and He told me, he (w/out the use of my real name to his students), he used my whole."Struggling at the start of the year.changed my attitude.ended up passing his class with an 'A'.or the as we call it.The " miracle story ".He was like."I used that in my First day of school speech that I gave all my classes." "I told them, no one can tell me they can't pass my class.because I know a girl out there that is living proof that it is possible." "so I just thought you should know, I was talking about you to all my classes the first day of school." and then he was messing with our cell phones.trying to take pictures of me and trying to figure out how to save pics. of himself on mine, etc.

But the strange thing is, that earlier this week..we saw eachother...because my cousin is a junior in the school that I graduated from, so I had to go in and pick her up...and she was getting help from a teacher so I was in the front office waiting and..he came in the front doors from the parking lot and was like..Ohh Hi...what are you doing here and I told him I was picking up my cousin and he was like ohh..and then he walked into the office and when he came out, he was like " oh...I have to stay away from you..." or something like that..I couldn't really make out what he said..but I was like..hmmm...thats wierd. Its like...he throws so many mixed signals....I just dont ever know if Iam reading him right.

People say, its just like...maybe he is just getting tierd of me not being receptive to his advances..there like...he has done lots of things to show you he cares and you have not done anything in return really. There like..maybe you two should just sit down and talk.But with these mixed signals...I really dont ever know what to do.

XD-bear · Posted: Sat Sep 27, 2008 2:13 am Post subject:

Why do you care?

your hardly so desperate as to genuinely care are you?

if not, move on.

if you are, talk to him.

Tamonten · Posted: Sun Sep 28, 2008 9:24 pm Post subject:

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alx · Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 7:12 am Post subject:

Tamo, why are they weilding blunt spoons?