After 5 yrs of friendship, love or lust? (sorry its long)

xXx.so.confused.xXx · Rookie Age: 22 Joined: 06 Jun 2007 Posts: 4

Okay, I've known this guy for about five years. He dated my best friend (of about 2 years) for two and a half years and they ended up breaking up just a few months ago. I haven't spoken to her in at least a year and a half if not longer. Well, I ended up seeing him a couple months ago at my high school classmate's 21st birthday party at the bar. Ever since that night, my friend (who is good friends with my guy friend) and his mom kept trying to tell me that he wanted to date me. I had a hard time believing it even though he was flirting with me constantly. Well, about a month later, I finally confronted him about the situation and he told me that they were lying and that he just wanted to be friends. A couple weeks after that, he saw me all dressed up after my brother's high school graduation and texted me sayin "icu" and "what are you all dressed up for?" and "what are you doing tonight?" I was confused cuz I had no clue where he was. Well, we texted for a while and made plans to hang out that night. One of his texts kinda scared me at first because it said "wanna get naughty?" I'm not used to him asking me things like that. I eventually called him because I got sick of texting and he kept tellin me that he wanted me to come over. I had a party to go to so I told him I'd be over at 4am drunk. He just laughed and said I wouldn't show up and that if I did, not to be afraid to wake him. Everyone knows that when u tell someone they won't do something, it only drives them to do it even more.
Sure enough, at 4am I pulled into his driveway and went to his room. After playin with his cat for a few minutes, I finally worked up the guts to wake him up. After a few minutes of talking, I crawled into bed with him. I was so nervous. We started messing around and part way into it I stopped. He asked me what was wrong and started running his fingers through my hair as I rested my head on his arm. I just told him that I was so confused and asked him about what our friends were saying. He said he didn't know why they were telling us things that weren't true. Then I told him that I had NEVER seen him as more than friends until they said something and he said "yeah, me either." Then I told them that I was really mad at them at the moment because I was so confused. He asked me if I wanted to go through with what we were doing because he didn't wanna confuse me any more than I already was and he didn't wanna make me hate men. I just said that he could't possibly confuse me any more and that we were already way past the whole "hating men" thing. After a few minutes I said "I know you want to, so yeah." I thought I had totally ruined it, but I guess not. So, he puts his condom on, rolls over, and asks me again if I was sure I wanted to go through with it. I just said "yeah."
Afterwards, we talked again and he was asking me about school and when I plan to move away for school and how long I'd be gone and other various little things. The whole thing was a week and a half ago and we've talked a couple of times since, but not about what we did.
I am so confused. If you think you might know what is going on in his head, please help me. He says one thing that sends a message that he's not really interested, but then he says another that makes him seem like he is. Why does he have to be so complicated? I have a couple friends that have dated him and them and his close friends say he's not the type to use a girl, but then what is going on? My feelings for him have become so much stronger now. I just wish I knew what to do.

minnie101 · Posted: Wed Jun 06, 2007 6:47 pm Post subject:

girl first of all you just need to talk to him and se watsup between yall personally i dont think you should have ****ed him because that right there is letting him know you is easy.........so just talk to him

xXx.so.confused.xXx · Rookie Age: 22 Joined: 06 Jun 2007 Posts: 4

we've known eachother for 5 years and he knows that I'm not easy. anyone that really knows me knows that I'm a big flirt, but I'm certainly not easy.

minnie101 · Posted: Wed Jun 06, 2007 7:36 pm Post subject:

oh well just talk to him then i still think u shouldn't have........but jus talk to him and see watsup u kno